FOBA – part two

FOBA Part 2: Feeling Lonely vs. Being Alone

Each of us has our own unique view of the world. It can appear loving, abundant, and kind. Other times, it fills us with scarcity, isolation, anxiety, and the fear of being alone (FOBA).

Loneliness is a very real issue and those suffering from it, including ourselves, deserve compassion. If you are one of the many people who struggle with a sense of isolation, I have good news for you: You are never alone. Not really: You are connected, through a divine creator, to every animal, every blade of grass, each drop of water, gram of dust, gust of wind, and every single person breathing right now.

Even in physical isolation, we are joined together by love and Spirit. You have the ability to tap into this divine connectedness and never truly be alone.

This connection binds our pain, our joys, our human experiences. We celebrate with one another. We take on each other’s pain. When something happens to one of us, it happens to all of us.

Our connection flows from the heartbeat of our creator, who is always with us and in us.

This heartbeat is our source of love and abundance – and divine connection.

However to be fully aware of these connections, to conquer that feeling of loneliness, we have to be willing to open and shift our mindset. We can start by doing these few things:

• Realize our thoughts are just that – our thoughts. We created them and we can change them. We can be aware of them, but don’t have to believe them or let them define us.

• Intentionally focus on being our own best friend. Being alone gives us the chance to get to know ourselves but until we love and accept ourselves AS WE ARE it can create a sense of isolation, separation, and loneliness. Our connection with others starts with connection to ourselves.

• Get quiet, and in the stillness of our minds, bring our focus to our hearts and ask our creator to allow us to feel connected to our true selves and all of life.

Stir up feelings of gratitude and appreciation for every good thing we can think of. It’s hard to feel lonely and grateful at the same time. Gratitude comes from that place of love and abundance. Loneliness comes from a place of scarcity.

Although feelings of loneliness are very real and can be extremely difficult, we can focus on connection and, with self-compassion, self-acceptance, and gratitude, feel much more present to the fact that we are never really alone.  

If you’d like to talk about more ways to change your reality, contact me to schedule a free video coaching session here.

Written by Peggy Johnson

I am a Transformational Life Coach. As a heart-centered, action-oriented person, I believe all people are absolutely beautiful and that our beliefs about life’s events and our past experiences often rob us of our abilities to believe in ourselves and live our lives fully. With this in mind, it is my purpose to help people realize they matter, and are beautiful, and fully seen, so they can believe in themselves and those around them.
January 4, 2020

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